Navigating Conflict

March – June 2020

Intention

Recently, I have come to realize that I have been consistently studying conflict my entire life. That sounds weird, I know. It’s the truth. I have found myself in many settings where conflict arises and over time, I’ve learned how to be present for what’s happening. The first step has been focusing on healing my wounds around conflict. Learning what my triggers are, how I talk to myself, what my flight/fight/freeze responses are, really going inwards and seeing what is there.

I have learned what I need so I am able to tolerate staying grounded in my body when tensions rise. This has led to holding space for clearing to be done between people who are in conflict with one another. Lately, Spirit has encouraging me to help others learn how to hold space for these types of clearings. One thing is for sure, the more we clear these wounds both individually and collectively, the more heart-centered lives people are able to lead. This is a program for those who want to heal their own wounds around conflict. This is also a program for those who both want to heal their own wounds and also want to learn out to hold space for other who are in conflict.

How do you show up for conflict?

As I mentioned, I’ve been studying conflict my entire life. I’m the type of person that notices patterns and am genuienly curious about them. I have noticed that there are different ways that people relate to conflict.  There are also different roles that people take when it comes to conflict.  Sometimes you can be a combination of the roles listed.  You may have once resonated with one of these roles but, because of the healing work you have done, you may lean more towards another. I’m sure there are more ways that people relate to conflict however, these are the major themes I have noticed.  Each theme named has its own unique wound (or wounds) to focus on healing.  This is why navigating conflict is such a dynamic healing process.  Awareness is always key.  

Roles:

The Avoider:  The Avoider will avoid conflict at all costs.  They will pretend like nothing is happening and everything is ok.  Denial is their armor of defense.  It is intolerable for them to accept that there is something wrong and that they need to take action.

The Instigator:  The Instigator person thrives off of instigating drama.  They are most likely hurt themselves but are not willing to look inwards into their pain.  Instead, they project their pain onto everyone around them.  There is a part of them that gets pleasure from creating chaos around them.

The Submissive: The Submissive person submits their will to the person with whom they are in conflict.  They ignore their own needs and cower to the demands of the other person.  The Submissive most likely has a history of trauma and this way of being has become their way to survive.  When tensions are high, this person’s body language often times looks like they are folding in on themselves.

The Reactor: The Reactor is someone who automatically goes into a defensive position whenever someone approaches them in a conflict. They feel the world is out to get them and they rather go down fighting. The Reactor explodes. The Reactor is unable to be present and listen. The Reactor refuses to lose, no matter what. The Reactor is unable to take responsibility for their actions.

The Witness: This Witness is the innocent bystander to the conflict.  Depending on their own constitution, they will get involved in the conflict or their body will seize up and they will freeze.

The Space Holder: The Space Holder has gained permission from all parties in the conflict to hold space for healing.  They have clear boundaries and make sure all parties are in agreement with the boundaries they have set in place for the group healing.  The Space Holder must stay grounded and be aware of their own triggers while holding space.  The Space Holder has done a lot of their own healing work to understand their own wounds so they can take care of themselves.

Services

Emotion Code

During the duration of the 4 months that we’ll be together, you will have 8 Emotion Code sessions. The reason why Emotion Code plays and important role in the program is because clearing energy is an important part of learning to navigate conflict. One thing I have learned as I deepen my Emotion Code practice is, it gets easier to stay grounded and listen to Spirit the more I clear the trapped emotions in my field.

1-on-1 Coaching

Once a month, you and I will meet for a coaching/mentoring session online. The purpose of these sessions is to dive deeper into your own understanding of yourself and how you relate to conflict. We will explore what is going on for you in life and focus on what needs you have in regards to the way you relate to conflict. We’ll explore what “role” you fall into when there is conflict and how to heal those wounds that come up for you.

Online Community Gatherings

During these community calls we will share experiences, fears, hopes, and learn from one another. There is so much power in connecting with community. We’ll drop in together and share what is going on for us in our lives. We’ll explore different ways conflict can come up in community and how to hold space for healing. There will be 8 community calls over the 4 months.

Self Study

As with all things, you will receive as much as you put into this program. Along with the Emotion Code clearing, coaching/mentoring and group calls, you will be given weekly journal prompts that will deepen your own understanding of yourself, your wounds, and your needs. In order to be an effective space holder for conflict, you must have awareness of your shadow. If not, those unmet parts of yourself will hijack your experience and create holes in the container you are holding. Being aware of the “role” that you take to hold space for others and yourself is your responsibility. True transformation takes work and discipline. Change happens over time with consistent practice and reflection. You will build the foundation of the skills you will continue to develop throughout your life. You will forever be able to refer to the tools that I am giving you no matter where life leads you.

The unseen layers of conflict

When conflict and tensions are present in a space, it is easy to sense that there is so much more going on. These energies create a chaotic feeding ground for lower frequency energies to feed off of people’s life force. It is important to have awareness of this vital layer of the energies surrounding conflict because if you have your guard down, you could also be affected, sometimes even attacked psychically.  Entities and other lower frequency energies do not want healing to occur when people are in conflict with one another.  These entities lose their power and control when people return to their hearts and are fully occupying their bodies.  That is why the container for clearing the energy between people needs to be airtight.  You also need to understand and work with the guides and guardians that have shown up to support you in this lifetime.  Humans need to understand that a strong and grounded relationship with both Gaia and the Spirit world is imperative in all aspects of life.  Specifically, when in community.  I can speak from experience about the many times when I either did not know, or forgot, how entities and other lower frequency energies work when conflict and tension arise.  That’s why I am so passionate about healing conflict and teaching others how to learn how to hold space for these types of healing.

What other people say

Those that are greatly impacted by Natalie’s medicine, you’ll hear them say that she feels like home to them. She feels like home to me. But a healthy kind of home.  What we all long for when we long for home. It feels like Natalie. In other words, she sits close to source. She carries this immense spiritual power and also a tender heart which enables everyone to feel held.  And something, I feel, she’s especially skilled with is what the world needs so desperately, someone who’s able to hold tension in community and facilitate a dialogue between those that feel wronged by each other. Natalie is able to skillfully hold space for the transmutation of pain, the oppositional kind of pain.  And then before you know it people are hugging each other. Those that sat in polarity with each other are now recognizing they actually love each other. Their hug now is much deeper. The hug is a real hug.
– Liv Mokai Wheeler

Energy Workers and Practitioners, I can’t say enough about how Natalie has helped me find my own voice past anger and isolation in ceremony and circle.  Because let’s be real, it happens.
Crystal Seeder

Dates for community calls

March 15
March 29
April 12
April 26
May 10
May 24
June 7
June 21

Financial Energetic Exchange

All of my programs are offered on a sliding scale in order to make them accessible to as many people as possible. I also offer different ways to make payments.

  • Option 1: One payment each month due on the 15th of each month, March – June:
    Sliding Scale $314- $426 USD
    or
  • Option 2: Two payments a month on the 1st and 15th starting March 1st (8 payments total): Sliding Scale $157- $213 USD
    or
  • Option 3: One time payment due March 15: Sliding Scale $1,254-$1,704 USD

How to register?

Fill out the form below and email to tendingyourspirit@gmail.com. Once you receive confirmation that your registration has been accepted, you will have one week to deposit the non-refundable $200 deposit that will hold your spot.

Early Bird Special

If you sign up for the program before 2/12/2020 you will receive $200 off your total for the program.

Enrollment Time

Last day to register for this program is 2/29/2020

Still curious if this is a good fit for you?

Why not set up a free exploratory call with me and we’ll talk about what your questions are and see if this program is a good fit for you?

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